For each of the following statements, select the number (1 to 7) of the category that best fits how much you agree or disagree. Enter that number on the line next to each column.
7 = agree completely
6 = agree a good deal
5 = agree somewhat
4 = neither agree or disagree
3 = disagree somewhat
2 = disagree a good deal
1 = disagree completely
1. If a person has any questions about the relationship, then it means that there is something wrong with it.
2. If my partner truly loved me, we would not have any quarrels.
3. If my partner truly cared, he or she would always feel affection for me.
4. If my partner gets angry at me or is critical in public, this indicates he or she doesn’t really love me.
5. My partner should know what is important without my telling him or her.
6. If I have to ask for something I really want, it spoils it.
7. If my partner really cared, he or she would do what I asked.
8. A good relationship should not have any problems.
9. If people really love each other they should not have to work on their relationship.
10. If my partner does something that upsets me, I think it’s because he or she deliberately wants to hurt me.
11. When my partner disagrees with me in public, I think it’s a sign that he or she doesn’t care for me very much.
12. If my partner contradicts me I think that he or she doesn’t have respect for me.
13. If my partner hurts my feelings, I think it’s because he or she is mean.
14. My partner always tries to get his or her own way.
15. My partner doesn’t listen to what I have to say.
This was tough. I was trying to think logically. I know though, that in the heat of the moment when feelings are hurt, the answers are totally different. Why can't we think with our heads, not our hearts?
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